Think first, speak last.

Think what you will, be cautious of what you speak.

Think what you will,
  be cautious of what you speak.

Many times I have heard the phrase, “‘Blogging’ is just graffiti with punctuation.”
I suppose because of the terrible grammar and spelling, being that anyone can start their own blog page, certainly with intention of sharing with the planet earth, it seems to be a true statement, but I do not consider that as being the intention of all ‘bloggers.’ Maybe more because blogs are normally people rambling, as I am here.

I agree with this for the most part, although, I would rather use it as a way of posting thoughts hoping that those thoughts may inspire people. I am not saying “This is how I think and you should also.” Not trolling, but trying to incite healing and beneficial thought in others. If I inspire thought, I have done what I set out to do.

The following entries are things I think about but never ask about or tell anyone about. Like them or don’t, but think about them. I certainly do.
Quotes are indicated.

Thanks for looking

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If you think you are the best you can be, you’ve put limits on your ability to become the best you can be.

If changing for the better to become the best you can be is your impetus, you will never fail those who respect and need you in their lives.

Never stop learning, seeking, or accepting knowledge.

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Either you control your anger or your anger controls you.
If you do not like to be controlled and you do not control your anger, you have lost the battle. If you do not replace your hate with compassion, your hate and anger controls you.
You are being controlled.

It’s very surprising how people become so bitter as they age. In your own life, love each other, hold no grudges, it only ruins your happiness and the happiness of others. You are the tool you use to make yourself miserable. No one else did it to you or can do it to you. Only you can undo it.

If you don’t move ahead with what is moving around you, you are a rock in the stream, to be avoided, eventually removed from the stream and left behind.

“‘Self-importance’ is man’s greatest enemy. What weakens him is feeling offended by the deeds and misdeeds of his fellow-man. ‘Self-importance’ requires that one spend most of one’s life offended by something or someone.”

Life won’t give you what you want until you give it what it needs.

If you are a musician and lover of non spoken communication and education, as I am, while standing within my circle, you either feed me to perfection, or create a hunger within me which forces me to add more musicians to this circle or seek a new circle to feed within. The grass is growing beneath our feet. We can not retrieve what we have squandered. If you are a musician and do not understand this, you are stagnant.

Life is the carpet you live on. What you can’t let go of are the walls around you. Remodel as often as possible.

I don’t understand why people tell others that they should let go of the past and move on but when they are asked why they continue with old, learned traditions they respond with “I was raised or ‘brought up’ that way.”
That really makes no sense to me at all.

“Such as are your habitual thoughts, such also will be the character of your mind; for the soul is colored by the thoughts.” Marcus Aurelius

If we are going to teach ‘English’ to those from other countries who want to live here, we are going to have to learn proper English first.
One cannot teach what one is not in control of and not proficient at using.

The only real change seems to come from those who choose to disprove that real change isn’t possible.

The things you say are often remembered for no longer than a day, however, your actions not only eradicate the former but are remembered for a lifetime.

My door is always open, and all are welcome, but I’m not going to beg you to visit.

“God puts trials in our way to make us stronger.”
Do you seriously believe this?

If you are a Christian, you believe in and love God. Do you really think he sits and devises ways to make your life harder?

I just don’t buy it.

When tough times come, you can call upon Him and wait, or you can man up and stop crying and get busy, drawing inspiration from His influence in your lives.

Stop blaming your God for your own bad foresight and decision making skills.

Telling a family member that you love them while sitting in a room with many other people, whether you know them or they are strangers, is no big feat. Sitting at a table alone with that family member and looking them in the eye and telling them that you love them and that they are very important to you takes humility and will be a much louder declaration.

Vulgar verbal communication is the linguistic crutch for the inarticulate.

Denial disallows sensibility.

When the tap which spills the truth dries up, the lies seem to flow like liquor.

Oddly, the more often you tell, or reveal, the truth and the more often you insist that others do the same, the more often you find that you are regarded as wrong. Odd indeed.

Being the best you can be, doing what you love to do that helps others, involves understanding good advice and accepting criticism. If you can’t do either, you make excuses for why you aren’t better than you are expected to be.

So, I thought to myself, why do I say “I thought to myself?” What’s wrong with you? Of course you thought to yourself. Do you think people think you don’t think to yourself? Wow, what is wrong with you? You always think to yourself. You’re not an alien. Well, maybe you are, but you always think to yourself. It’s the way it works. Now get back to whatever you were doing. Quit screwing around.”

If you intend to impress others, your intention is invalid. Do something people expect from great leaders, not from mediocre followers and don’t tell anyone what you’ve done. They will notice.

When you ask a question, attempt to listen to and understand the answer, otherwise, your sarcasm is better wasted on someone who doesn’t care to answer or who doesn’t care if you listen.

Expecting perfection only leads to disappointment. Perfection must be discovered to be understood and appreciated.

Since you are going to be stuck with yourself for life, regardless of whom you marry or such, at least choose to be likable. After all, you’re the first person you DO have to like.

If you can’t communicate adequately, you can’t be understood or appreciated adequately.

You can not force people to make the right decisions, but you can avoid the shrapnel when they self destruct because of the wrong decisions they make.

If you choose never to change for anyone, you have chosen to become stagnant. Changing yourself to help others does not mean losing anything, it means that gaining wisdom is important to you. It’s a ‘win/win’ situation. Choose to be a part of it, because choosing not to just means you are happy with never moving forward.

We all fit in somewhere. To not let pride contaminate is the challenge.

Some people only need to speak two words to let you know ten words from them would be even more useless to hear.

Don’t let time steal your promises or pave your highways. Make your move with elegance and respect.

When you are caught lying, just admit that you have been lying, apologize and move on. If you choose to do so, you will be seen as a man who owns up to his mistakes. You may not garner as much trust from others as you had earlier, but you will be seen as a reasonable man and will have the opportunity to elevate that trust. If you do not apologize and move on, people will know that you are a liar, they will not trust you and you will never regain that trust, nor the opportunity to do so.

If you have held on to that lie, despite the fact that everyone knows you lied, and you are discovered, the first thing on your list to do is to apologize to whomever you lied to.

I was lied to for 50 years from someone I was supposed to trust. I knew it was a lie from the time I was a small boy. When that person was discovered, there were no apologies to anyone. The ‘liar’ didn’t have the personal integrity to apologize. It is their loss. The one most important person to them that should have received an immediate apology passed on in 2001, 14 years before they did. How sad.

If you are an advocate of ‘understanding’ and consider helping both sides of a dispute, you can not ‘take sides’ and expect to help anyone. You are no help at all. ‘Understanding’ is not for sale to the highest bidder and you know nothing about ‘understanding.’

If there are people in your life who continually reject you, you are leasing your personal space to the wrong clients. Destroy that contract, boot them from your head and move to a better neighborhood.

You should never feel remorse for protecting your own property or watching out for your own healthy interests.

Have no remorse for people you remove from your life for treating you badly who have no remorse for treating you badly.

People that need to forgive often, should stop challenging others.

In your life you will find, if you haven’t already, people who refuse to listen to you but insist that they constantly make their point and insist that you agree with them, seldom back their agenda with good intent.

Close the door they live behind, walk away and do not look back.
There are better people on your side of their door.

Christians seem to forget that living as a Christian is not about following what they read in a book once, but about treating people that they meet everyday with respect, regardless of whether they are a friend, family or a stranger.

Remember, Bibles were not around in Christ’s time.

First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out — Because I was not a Socialist.

Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out — Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out — Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me — and there was no one left to speak for me.

Another thought. Why do people express their hatred of people’s hate by expressing how deeply they hate them?

We all need to speak at the table we sit upon, because there is really only one table. Ours.
There’s no other table.

I don’t want music to touch me. I don’t want music to enter my ear. I don’t want to watch music videos. I don’t want to own discs and records. No, never.

I want music to enter every cell of my body. I want it to cause my every atom to vibrate. Every atom that my existence is comprised of. Only then will those who meet or know me know that I have no agenda other than that they experience the language that occupies all tongues regardless of dialect or location. Music is not for earth only. It is stellar.

It is the language that can never be defined or interpreted in any way other than to experience it. The vibration that is music can never be captured or contained. It changes at each second. There is no language that is music, but we all speak it.

Once you release yourself from the obsession of trying to prove that someone else, their understandings, beliefs, ideals, are wrong, you release yourself from what it is that you do not want to be controlled by.

The only thing that you choose in your life that can affect my life is what you choose to share with me.
Choose wisely before you choose later.

“The common man regards religion as true, the wise man regards it as false, and the politicians regard it as useful.”
Lucius Annaeus Seneca.


There comes a time in your life, or at least there SHOULD come a time in your life, when you have to ask yourself, “Why is what I believe in and build my life upon, at odds with what is best for ALL, whether they are like me or not?”

If you never reach this point, you care about no one but yourself. When you exclude others from your club, it isn’t a club. It’s a cult, and you are a contributing member to the cult.


You don’t have to believe in, or live for, what others believe in, or live for, in order to show respect to them.

It troubles me that emotional attachment seems to somehow disenfranchise people from actual facts.

Happiness in life is not about whether you follow the rules or not, or whether you make your own. It’s about living life and conducting yourself in a way that does not need rules.

Being the best you can be, doing what you love to do that helps others, involves understanding good advice and accepting criticsm. If you can’t do either, you make excuses for why you aren’t better than you are expected to be.

There is no substitute for the unity that music owns in us.

Carry on.

More to come……………..


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